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Lean On Me


     If you have been keeping up-to-date with our lessons here at Pride, you will have heard that our word of the month for April is Self-Reliance. If you were to ask the kids what Self-Reliance means, you would get an answer like “Learning to take care of things myself,” or “trusting in my own abilities, powers, and judgments.” But to get a real understanding of what it means to be Self-Reliant, we need to take this a step further.

     Obviously trust is critical to healthy relationships with friends and family, and it is extremely important to be able to depend on others when necessary. In martial arts classes, the student depends on the coaches to keep the class moving, to make sure they fully understand the curriculum, and to help develop crucial life skills. But there are certain things that the students must be able to do on their own. Things like keeping their eyes on the coach, following directions, and staying on track during line/partner drills are all jobs that the students must learn to take care of themselves. Part of the coaches’ job is to teach them how to do this. This is why the concept of Self-Reliance is so important for the kids to develop.

     Self-reliance is the confidence to know that you can hold your own-the belief that when the time comes, you are ready for whatever life (or the coaches!) may throw at you. Many parents never allow their children to develop self-reliance. They do even the simplest of tasks for their kids, never allowing them to learn on their own. This isn’t a big deal at a young age- kids are with their parents most of the time anyway. But as kids grow older, they begin to have to do things on their own. Going to school, getting a job, going out with friends; these are all things that kids will eventually do on their own. Although they may still rely on you for some things, they still must have the confidence to know they can do it themselves. My question is, will your child be prepared to handle any situation confidently? Or will they fail because they have not been taught what it takes to succeed?