The Cycle of Courtesy

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The Cycle of Courtesy

The coaches and I have been speaking in the classes this month about Courtesy, “treating others with kindness and respect”. In teaching & talking about courtesy with our students over the last several years, I’ve found that there are two major pieces that are important to understand. The Cycle of Courtesy, and the Ripple effect. 

The Cycle of Courtesy
As with any character trait, courtesy begins with me. In order for to be able to treat others with kindness and respect, I must first treat myself in the same manner. If I don’t take care of myself or my things, If I belittle myself mentally or verbally when I make a mistake, If I focus more on my mess ups or things I dislike about myself rather than what I do right, or the the things I like, then I will tend to also have that same critical eye for others. In addition people tend to treat you with the same respect you give to yourself and to others. With that said, the cycle is what you make it. When you choose to treat yourself with kindness and respect, and in turn treat those you come into contact with the same, you’ll find most times it will be returned to you. The reverse is true as well, disrespect and indifference or cruelty will also find their way back to you.!

The Ripple Effect
I read a quote that said “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” It’s too easy to stay so caught up in our own battles, and just the day to day chaos of life. Too easy to forget the important things- like courtesy and respect. The truth of the matter is you never know just what battles others might be fighting. What if you could be the one person who can make a difference in that person’s day, week or even their life? You can. The smallest things, like treating someone with dignity, kindness and respect, can have great power. A power so great in fact, that it can become a chain reaction. Being a blessing to someone, especially in a time of need, is like throwing a stone into a pond. Your kindness carried on thru them being a blessing to another, and so on. I believe the ripple effect in an amazing example of the power of one.